Love is a complex and deep language and one that is communicated differently for everyone. For some they choose to love others by buying them gifts while for others they choose to love by being present and listening to you. While we put an emphasis on trying to understand how we communicate love, it is also important to know your partner’s love language. The questions then are: How does your partner communicate their love? How do they receive love?
Most of us have heard about the 5 love languages. If you have not, the 5 love languages include: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. By utilizing this assessment, you can learn how to love your partner the best you can. The assessment is available (for FREE!) at 5 Love Languages It takes about 10 to 15 minutes and has a number of questions designed to analyze your emotional communication preference. Once you complete the assessment, it will tell you which of the five love languages is your strongest.
In a relationship, it is easy to assume that the other person wants to be loved the way that you do- I mean, if that’s what works for you it should work for others too, right? Well, that is not always the case. Knowing your own love language can help you when connecting with others, but when it comes to relationships, it is imperative that you also know how your partner gives and receives love. It is an essential part of the relationship where you are getting to know not just how to communicate love but also know how to communicate love the way your partner communicate it.
We recommend that you and your partner both take the assessment and share with one another what your love languages are. They may be the same, but they also may be different, which is why it is so important to take the assessment and find out. By taking the time to find out your own and your partner’s love languages, you are opening the door to a better relationship by developing a better understanding of how to give love effectively to your partner. For example, if your partner’s love language is quality time and you are a gift buyer, you need to understand and respect that while they appreciate the gifts you buy them, it is important to also make time for them to spend some quality one-on-one time as well.
Whether you are just starting your relationship or if you have been together for years, knowing each other’s love language can make a huge, positive impact on your relationship. Give it a try and have a conversation about it – you’ll be surprised what a difference it makes.
There is no doubt communication is not always easy. Let’s get real, talking in a loving tone doesn’t always happen. If you can be in tune with your partner’s love language, and your own then your partner has a greater chance of knowing and effectively responding to your needs. For more great tips do not hesitate to reach out to us here