With Valentine’s Day coming up, let’s talk about relationships. Especially about finding the right person to be with. We all have a criteria and we want someone who can match them. However, those criteria can sometimes be unrealistic. Can you think of anybody in your life who has a very high – sometimes unrealistic – standards in choosing Mr. Right – or Mrs. Right? Maybe that someone is you or very close to you. The key in finding the right person is knowing the difference between knowing your own values and wanting what is best for you versus creating too high of an expectation from a person. This balance can be a tricky one to manage, but we hope our insight can help you clear up whether you’re looking for Mr. Perfect or the right person to be with as a partner.
First off, let me just throw it out there that nobody is perfect. You probably know that already simply by being you and interacting with those in your life. The same goes for our partners. Nobody is going to be the perfect partner all the time, and that is okay. We don’t want to aim for perfect relationships; instead, we want to aim for happy, healthy, give-and-take relationships. There are going to be some things that you two disagree upon. There are going to be things about them that get on your nerves. There will be times when you cannot believe they thought something was okay, or that they said what they said. All of this is normal. No two people will be absolutely perfect for each other, that’s simply not how life works.
On the flip side, we are not saying that you should not have standards. Everybody is different and the right partner for you depends on you. You know yourself better than we know you, so set reasonable, healthy standards for your potential partner. This looks different for everyone, but refer to our post “5 Things You Need to Know about Finding the Right Person” for more information on this.
The point is not to have such high expectations that no one can live up to them, the point is to have high enough expectations to where your relationship will be happy, healthy, and can thrive. As the title says, Mr. Right isn’t always going to be Mr. Perfect, meaning that while your partner will not be perfect or be the best at everything that does not mean that they cannot be right for you. As always, we are here for you and want to see you succeed. If you would like some help navigating the dating game, never hesitate to reach out to us.